HOW TO FIND THE BEST RELATIONSHIP EXPERT THAT'S RIGHT FOR YOU?
According to a national survey, 81% of all private practice therapists in the United States do marital therapy (American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 1997). But only 12% are in a profession that requires even one course or any supervised experience.
When searching for a relationship expert, find out whether they had legitimate training: an American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) may have the largest number of skilled marital therapists and relationship experts. Besides doing the due diligence with online research, call a relationship expert directly. Most of them accommodate short consultations over the phone or skype.
Due to the fact that couple’s therapists or relationship experts do not give out client’s confidential information, you won’t be able to check references. So when you call, ask questions to qualify a relationship expert:
- Tell me about your background and training
- What percentage of your practice is dedicated to relationship issues and marital therapy?
- What are your values about the importance of keeping the relationship or a marriage together when there are serious relationship issues?
- Would it be Ok if I give you a real brief description of what we are dealing with, to see if this is something you can be effective dealing with?
- What is your approach when one wants to end the relationship and the other wants to save it?
- What is your track record (percentage) work our their to stay together with reasonable amount of satisfaction?
Your goal is to find a relationship expert who focuses on the quality of happiness that can only be achieved in a healthy relationship, not in your individual happiness. Start by checking a personal website of the relationship expert, read up on their publications, articles and books.