Relationship Secrets Of Celebrity Couples
Hollywood seems to get the best of celebrity couples living their relationships in the spotlight. From Liz Taylor’s eight marriages to Kimmy Kardashian’s multi-million dollar marriage, and divorce (within 30 days), tinsel town and tabloids have been responsible for breaking up famous couples right in our living rooms and check-out line magazines. Sad to think that watching other couples love-lives flourish and then go down in flames is entertainment, yet still the National Enquirer, TMZ, Extra and other media poparazzi outlets are American’s guilty pleasures.
Who hasn’t followed the romantic (and not so romantic) antics of their favorite Hollywood couples on reality TV or in the news? Particularly couples who make headlines for the very instances that destroy their marriages, it’s hard not to take notice. Couples like musician Tommy Lee and Pam Anderson (and Bobbie Brown, and Heather Locklear....) who publicly fought, broke-up, made-up and leaked sex tapes. Or couples like [Chris Brown and Rihanna][rihannna] who’s domestic violence issues we sadly witnessed in 2010. It’s a terribly known fact, that most of the “entertainment” provided by the tabloids and television about our favorite celebrity couples is negative. Sometimes entertaining, but still negative.
NOT ALL COUPLES BREAK UP
Well, for all of you soft-hearted romantics, there is hope in Hollywood for true love. Though it’s never highly publicized -- because the public thrives on drama -- there are quite a few Hollywood couples who have outlasted the rest. Some of these high-profile couples have remained loyal and loving to each other no matter what obstacles came into their spotlight. Some of these couples made it through the pressures of the public eye and the demands of a life in the limelight for close to three decades and are still going strong. Read on to see what couples advice your favorite celebrity couples have to offer you and your partner.
COUPLES BEATING THE LIMELIGHT ODDS
Jamie Lee Curtis & Christopher Guest. Of all the Hollywood couples we know, this pair has already stood the tests of time and keeps on plugging forward in romantic bliss. Curtis was born into the Hollywood scene by one of the most infamous couples in motion picture history, Janet Leigh and Tony Curtis. Her husband, Christopher Guest, best known for his role in the legendary rock and roll mock-umentary, Spinal Tap, is actually spawned from British royalty as “Lord Haden Guest.”
Curtis and guest credit the success of their relationship to remaining “normal” and separating their fame from their relationship, unlike many other famous couples who are doomed by the poparazzi from the start. Twenty six years later, Guest remarks, “I married the woman I fell in love with. She’s my wife, I wake in the morning and make her toast. Regular couples can take a lesson from these two. No matter how far each of you go in life, together or as a unit, always remember where you came from and to keep up on those little things that made you fall in love.
Ozzy & Sharon Osbourne. Of all the famous couples in the world, who could forget the zany, unorthodox and unpredictable Osbournes. You’ve got to hand it to Sharon for accepting “The Prince Of Darkness” for who he is and overcoming his years of substance abuse and violent behavior. In fact, Sharon covertly provided Ozzy with the rehabilitation he needed to recover from his issues, become a better husband and father and land the whole family a hit TV reality series. Over the years, they are one of the few couples who have survived the trials and tribulations associated with being a heavy metal icon and constant worldwide touring. All while raising their three children.
Sharon credits the success of hers and Ozzy’s marriage to acceptance and tolerance. The Osbournes have been happily married for 29 years. “Ozzy is the perfect partner” says Sharon, “He does his thing, I do mine. He farts and snores, so what?” What can we learn from Ozzy and Sharon Osbourne? That accepting your partner for who they are and focusing more on your love than their shortcomings makes for romantic and blissful longevity.
Warren Beatty & Annette Benning. After being known as one of Hollywood’s most eligible and heart-breakers for decades, Warren Beatty traded in his bachelorhood to become one of Hollywood’s longest lasting couples when he married “Bugsy” co-star, Annette Benning in 1992.
Twenty years later, the pair have four children and are one of America’s most admired loyal and loving couples. Beatty and Benning have a solid relationship based on friendship and partnership. “We really try to make time for ourselves” says Benning, “We involve our children in a lot of stuff, but also tell them ‘No. We want to be alone together.” Couples with children can certainly identify with this, and it is just as important to everyday couples as it is to the rich and famous. No matter how much you love your family, you simply must make time to be alone with your partner to preserve the romance and intimacy. Besides that, you deserve it.
Denzel Washington & Pauletta Pearson. The downfall of a lot of celebrity couples is jealousy. Particularly when one (or both partners) become national sex symbols. Maybe because she’s a bit older than him, or maybe because she’s a strong, talented, successful and beautiful actress, but Paulletta Pearson feels that the key to holding on to her Hollywood hunk husband, Denzel Washington, is paying no mind to millions of women who lust him. She once remarked to Oprah Winfrey, “I know he’s coming home.”
Denzel on the other hand, feels that he owes the success of his 30 year marriage to respecting his wife in the ultimate proportions. Believing that a couples success relies in part on “knowing who’s boss,” he matter-of-fact-ly states, “I do what she tells me.” What thousands of women worldwide wouldn’t do to be in her Manolos! Couples who admire the relationship style of Denzel Washington and Pauletta Pearson need to remember two things. Keep your man happy at home and he’ll keep coming back, and the female head of the household is the head of the household. After thirty years of marriage, they must be on to something.
David Bowie & Iman. Celebrity or not, some couples just have nothing but fate, destiny, love at first sight and whimsical, magical aura to attribute the success of their relationship to. Bowie and Iman remarkably are one of the few celebrity couples to meet on a blind date. Bowie was reportedly so charmed and captivated by the stunning Somalian supermodel that he waited patiently for her return from an overseas photo shoot to greet her at the airport the moment she stepped off the plane. Iman describes the experience as love at first sight recalling, “That’s when I knew he was a keeper. He was standing there with flowers in hand, with no security and didn’t care who saw him.”
Not many couples in Hollywood (or anywhere else) are able to maintain a whirlwind romance turned marriage for very long, but those couples just don;t have what Bowie and Iman have; attraction. After nearly 20 years of marriage they are inseparable. “We are never apart,” says Bowie who stopped touring in 2004 to spend more time with his wife and daughter Alexandria, 10. This is a great example for all the couples who are dreamy and romantic and believe in a story-book romance. Love doesn’t have to make sense, be calculated, planned or quality inspected before indulging. It’s okay to wear your heart on your sleeve and dive in head first when you just know it’s real.
Sting & Trudy Styler. It never fails to amaze how so many couples in the music business fall prey to rumors of the wife “breaking up” the band. Ever since the historically volitile and public relationships of music business couples like John Lennon and Yoko Ono or Sid Vicious and Nancy Spungen, music fans have blamed their idol’s retirements on their thriving and devoted romantic relationships. Another one of those couples is Sting and Trudy Styler. Many a disgruntled “Police” fan has held the couples thirty year relationship and Trudy’s involvement in his career -- as Sting’s producer -- responsible for the band’s break-up in 1984.
Like other rock and roll couples of earlier years, Sting and Trudy think little of such rumors and rightfully show no shame or guilt over having a successful relationship. Married for nineteen of their twenty together, like may couples they credit their longevity to a number of factors including effort, exercise, love and intimacy. Known to practice tantric yoga an brag openly about their active sexual relationship, the couples philosophy is to take each day as it comes and work hard at being happy together. "Relationships aren't easy and I don't think they're particularly natural,” Sting has been heard to say, “but we're lucky because we love each other.”
Goldie Hawn & Kurt Russel. Some contemporary and open minded couples find that the key to a long-lasting relationship is avoiding the altar altogether. More and more modern-day couples are opting to keep the legalities to a minimum even though they have found “the one.” However, couples like Kurt Russel and Goldie Hawn were onto this lifestyle choice since the 1960’s when the model family was “The Brady Bunch.”
Russel and Hawn have been friends since 1968 but didn’t join the ranks of famous unmarried Hollywood couples until 1984 the pair have together raised three children from each of their previous marriages and one of their own during their relationship which has spanned more than a quarter of a century. “There really is no reason to marry” says Goldie, “I like waking up and seeing him there, and knowing I have a choice.” What a lot of couples should recognize in this relationship, is that marriage really is a choice. It’s not for everyone and if you have love, trust and faith in your union, a marriage certificate is just a slip of paper. Unmarried couples who are loyal, caring, thoughtful and loving can be just as happy enjoying each other’s companionship as couples who wed.
Tom Hanks & Rita Wilson. Acceptance of each other is absolutely essential in any relationship and celebrity couples like Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson are the epitome of unconditional love. All too often couples -- famous or not -- somewhere down the line get a notion to “change” or “improve” their mate. Wilson recalls Hanks saying to her early on in their relationship, "I just want you to know that you don’t have to change anything about who you are, or what you do, to be with me." Since 1988, they have accepted each other for they are, raised four children (including two from Tom’s first wife) and produced more than a dozen films together.
Any couples who maintain both romantic and work relationships together simultaneously, must practice acceptance to help the relationship to survive. What all couples need to remember is that you take your partner “as is” and accept their faults, flaws and shortcomings come what may. Couples who try to change each other ultimately do more harm than good to their relationships. Love your partner for who they are, not what you’d like them to be.
What it boils down to, is when you strip away the fame and fortune, celebrity couples are just like normal couples. All couples are unique in their own ways with varied, wants, needs and ideas about what works best for them. If you want to make your relationship last, do what works for you and your partner; not what is considered “traditional” or “proper.” What works for some couples may not work for others and you can’t model your relationship according what society thinks you are supposed to do. Couples who live their lives for themselves find that love is what makes them go the distance.