Be Selfless With Foreplay. In his book, Stephan asks that husbands prioritize pleasing the woman; “Don’t make everything about sex!” He wants men to understand that women are much more likely to want intimacy when they enjoy it. Women are much more likely to enjoy it if they feel that their sexual and nonsexual needs are important and are being met by the husband.
In his book, Stephan suggests that husbands spend more time exploring their wife’s body, finding new erogenous zones. He also suggests being sensitive about when to ask for sex and when to simply offer nonsexual intimacy. It’s important that men understand: providing emotional and nonsexual physical intimacy will get a man a whole lot more intimacy than asking for it directly.