15 Vital Relationship Questions
Anyone who is dating, has indulged in a love affair, been engaged, married, or even just had a crush has had to ask themselves these relationship questions at some point. In fact, you can’t pursue, establish, build, grow or maintain a healthy loving and intimate partnership without asking your loved one, or yourself, a few fate determining relationship questions that define the essence of your love.
Here are 15 relevant relationship questions that everyone should consider, at every stage of relationship.
Relationship Question: “Do You Like Me?”
In most cases, we tend to fall romantically for those with whom we have already developed a platonic relationship. Questions are going to come up because most of us are afraid being rejected and tempted to take a step back. This is #15 relationship question on our list, but nonetheless important to address during your courtship.
Relationship Question: “How Can I Please You Without Ruining It for Me?”
Of all the relationship questions, this one is the trickiest. It can do serious damage if ignored. First, establish the boundaries beyond which neither of you feel comfortable. Easiest way to discuss the topic of boundaries is asking a few hypothetical relationship questions:
- If I could do anything to please you right now, what would it be?
- If I could take you on a vacation, where would you go?
- Would you mind if your partner drank a glass of wine everyday?
- If your partner could make more money, would you stay home with the kids?
- If you were stripped of all life's privileges and allowed one fancy item, what would it be?
- What the first thing you would you do if you won $50,000 lottery?
- What would you do if you forgot our anniversary?
Relationship Question: “Is This Love, Or Lust?”
The proper way to answer this relationship question is from anthropological stand point: Love (when you look at the person you love) is caused by heightened levels of serotonin and dopamine, so when we feel connected or attached for long-term, we produce a hormone of love called oxytocin. Dopamine also controls euphoria, craving, and addiction.
On the other hand, Lust (when you look at erotic pix for example) effects two parts of your brain 1)Hypothalamus which controls the feeling of hunger and thirst & 2)Amygada which controls the arousal. Lust is also caused by heightened levels of testosterone in both sexes while feeling the attention and sexual arousal.
Let us answer the first part of this relationship question: Is this Lust? The answer is yes if you see the following signs: obsession with just looks; sex is the primary interest, no emotional connection after or during intimacy.
Lets answer the second part of this relationship question: Is this Love? Identifying the signs of Love: amazing chemistry, high interest in what partner is saying, you can imagine growing old together, anything partner wears looks great, you do romantic things, never break the team, you make each other better.