A GPS to Her Orgasm
by David on Nov 07, 2011
If woman’s body came with a GPS for men, maybe there wouldn’t be so much confusion and fake orgasms: “Slight right, curve ahead…You have reached her pleasure destination.” Sex education didn’t educate anyone on what pleases a woman and what frustrates her sexually. The real problem that challenges men is the simple fact that not every woman experiences pleasure in the same places or the same way, so the key is to let him feel like he came up with it on his own.
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COMMUNICATION
Communication is key to any successful relationship, not only outside of the bedroom, but also inside the bedroom. Most women feel shy or silly “talking dirty” or giving directions like a GPS. So even though women are often asked what they want, they have a very difficult time exploring that side of themselves. Start by initiation the conversation about each other’s sexual dreams and desires.
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LISTEN CLOSELY
The next step to achieve successful orgasms is listening to pleasure cues—those “ohs” and “ahs,” and mostly “mmms.” When women get silent, move along! If that happens, find another route to her root. Try kissing breasts, lower back, back of her neck, back of her knees, ears, etc. Keep in mind, what may feel good the first five minutes may soon become irritating and numb-like within that sixth minute. Woman’s body is fickle, so tune in.
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CHECK IN AS YOU GO
If you’re looking for pure pleasure fast, ask questions: “How is that?” or, “Am I doing it right, baby?” Don’t assume it feels good just because that’s how you’ve always done it. A woman will gladly answer yes if she’s being pleased, and if she doesn’t have the guts to say no, she won’t say anything, but you’ll get the clue. Challenge yourself. For example, tracing an alphabet on her genitals with your tongue.
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MAKE HER FANTASIZE
Most men aren’t shy about creating sexy images in their heads. Help her visualize something that turns her on. Remember to make it about her fantasy. She also craves praise as much as you do, so talk about it afterwards. Focus on what worked for her, make mental notes and give her a long, loving kiss.
Pure pleasure takes patience, practice, and perseverance. Making love and pleasing your partner doesn’t require a GPS to guide you. Let her moans and groans lead you there.
