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Surviving The Holidays with In-Laws - A Guide For Loving Partners

by on Nov 16, 2012

Surrounded by in-laws on Thanksgiving?

When you commit to the one you love, you also take on an entire new family: the in-laws. During the holiday season, you’re likely to find yourself surrounded by family members that aren’t ‘your’ family. Some of us are blessed with wonderful extended families that truly enrich our lives. Then there’s the rest of us. If you fall into the latter group, this guide to surviving the holidays can help save your holiday spirit.

Surviving The Holidays with In-Laws - A Guide For Loving Partners



No matter how much you’re cringing inside at the thought of Aunt Sophie’s long stories that lead to nowhere, or Grandpa’s colostomy bag at the dinner table, keep it to yourself. The last thing you need is to argue with your partner and create tension at your holiday gathering. Graciously accept the idea of commiserating with your in-laws and try your best to appear as if you’re happy about it. Remind yourself, “This is only once a year.”



Avoid useless disputes by compromising with your partner, and in-laws over small holiday details. For instance, let’s say your family has traditionally enjoyed a delicious Christmas goose each year for decades. Enter the in-laws, complaining that ham is the traditionally featured holiday meal in your partner’s family, and serving anything else is blasphemy. Instead of hosting a debate over the issue, serve both. Start a new tradition that makes everybody happy.