Is This Really Love?
You spent time, money and energy trying to find a perfect match, and now when you found your soulmate, have you really found "the one"? When you look at a happy couple, you can tell that their relationship can survive anything life throws at them and come out even stronger. What are the sings of a happy couple we all recognize when we see it?
We are going to list a few common characteristics of a typical happy couple and if you see any commonalities with your own relationship, you might have found "the one".
YOU CAN'T WAIT TO SEE EACH OTHER
You find yourself counting minutes until you see each other, to spend time doing almost anything as long as it means being together. And you never get tired of it, you are not searching for ways to escape each other's company to be alone or with friends.
YOU PUT EACH OTHER FIRST
Any big decision that might affect the two of you are always discussed and considered by both. There is no boss in the relationship, it is a group effort and a team work environment. No one has the upper hand or the veto power.
YOU FEEL POSITIVE
There are no extreme highs and extreme lows. You feel great about him, about your life and about where life is going. You do not doubt his intentions and you feel secure with each other.
YOU ARE RESPECTFUL
You avoid participating in spouse-bashing debates about how horrible other spouses are and what is lacking in your marriage. When others insult him in your presence -you stand up for him. In the heat of the argument - you never call your partner names.
YOU PICK YOUR FIGHTS CAREFULLY
You do not fight over petty things. When you are discussing an issue, you avoid being condescending, belittling and using patronizing speech. Instead, you defuse the situation and reach reasonable compromise. You'd rather be happy than right. You do not corner your partner to force him to quit the relationship or lose the dignity by staying.
YOU SEE EACH OTHER GROWING OLD TOGETHER
You imagine holding hands when you are old and spending quality time together when you are 85. You see having grandchildren on his lap, you can clearly picture a perfect life together.
YOU SUPPORT EACH OTHER
After a bad day at work, at home, with friends or family - you are there to support without criticizing. You are a good listener and you hug one another when times are rough. Instead of being devil's advocate, you help each other to see the bright side when going gets tough.
YOU DON'T KEEP A SCORE
You try to do more for your partner and do not keep the score who does more or less. Helping with kids or around the house does not sound like a chore - you do it to help with an open heart, not to earn points or brag that you did it. You do not bring up the comparison of your ex relationship. You are happy to be together and you do not care about what other people say.
YOU DON'T WANT THINGS TO CHANGE
You never see yourself saying: "Honey I love you - now change". You accept one another for who you are today and do not want things to change much. You find ways to turn your differences into your new attractions and focus on how your partner's good traits can add to your relationship.
YOU TRUST EACH OTHER
You can leave and trust your partner to be loyal knowing you would never do anything to hurt each other. When you are talking, you are worried about being attacked or yelled at, you can come and talk about your issues with each other with confidence, leaving each other feeling loved and appreciated.